{"id":200697,"date":"2021-06-29T05:34:42","date_gmt":"2021-06-29T00:34:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/leadpakistan.com.pk\/news\/?p=200697"},"modified":"2021-06-29T05:34:42","modified_gmt":"2021-06-29T00:34:42","slug":"asking-for-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/leadpakistan.com.pk\/news\/asking-for-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Asking for it"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Last year a short clip by comedy trio Muriel She\u2019s Asking For It became the most-watched BBC3 video on Facebook and Twitter, racking up a combined 45 million views in just 10 days. It shows two British lads in a cafe as one of them puts down a local tabloid on the counter. \u201cThat\u2019s awful,\u201d he says, pointing to the headline, \u2018He Said She Said, University Sex Scandal\u2019, with a splashy image of an ample bosomed young lady in tight jeans. His friend scoffs derisively: \u201cYeah, but look at what she\u2019s wearing. She\u2019s asking for it.\u201d<br \/>\nThis insensitivity infuriates the waitresses who begin to imagine \u2018asking for\u2019 something without saying it. One barges into another company\u2019s conference room in a red pantsuit, expecting a promotion; the other starts her vacation in the middle of a working day as she is in a sarong. The camera then zooms back to the offensive lad whose slice of chocolate cake is knocked off his plate by his server. \u201cYou won\u2019t want this then,\u201d she says, pointing to his Arsenal top. \u201cI\u2019m not a footballer,\u201d he protests before the girls retort: \u201cWell what did you expect us to think when you\u2019re wearing that! Asking for it?\u201d<br \/>\nThe link between sexual assault and dress results in heated debate in patriarchal societies but it turns out that even one of the most liberal needs media reminders to state the obvious: women are never asking to be raped.<br \/>\nThe furore over our prime minister\u2019s answers to questions posed by Axios\u2019s Jonathan Swan reflects some of this justifiable outrage. But overlooked in the ensuing reactive conversation is that the prime minister was right about some of the causal pathways to rape: society\u2019s sexual scripts and beliefs. In his signature frank and open style, he explained how exposures not dangerous in some societies are dangerous in different cultural constructs. Despite a disclaimer that his choice of word \u2018purdah\u2019 did not refer to \u2018the veil\u2019 but to its Islamic meaning \u2018avoiding immorality\u2019, an outcry ensued.<br \/>\nPart of some unfair criticism stemmed from the public reluctance to distinguish between the acknowledgement of the existence of certain erroneous sexual scripts and a belief in their veracity. One may, for example, believe that certain offenders see choice of dress as incitement to rape or the signalling of sexual availability, but not condone these myths.<br \/>\nConfusion also occurs because of an over-reliance on the teachings of Western feminist literature of the 1970s, especially Susan Brownmiller\u2019s Against Our Will, which cited misogyny\/power play as the only factor behind rape. While this undoubtedly benefited the cause of gender equality, it remained incomplete as an explanation of why men assault women. Scientific literature today proposes multiple linkages, including a perpetrator\u2019s neurophysiology, alcohol consumption, psychopathology, personality, attitudes to gender, the socialisation taught by families, schools and religion, the media watched (violence on TV, pornography) and sexual scripts (men as sexual aggressors; women, gatekeepers) taught by cultural mores.<br \/>\nRichard Felson of Penn State and Richard Moran of Mount Holyoke College state most rape victims in the US, where one in three females are assaulted, are young women, which means the motive of sexual gratification cannot be dismissed. \u201cMost rapists force victims to have sex because they want sex,\u201d they conclude. Even within the network of contemporary feminist scholarship, more nuanced and empirically based studies are being published. Beverly McPhail of the University of Houston says rape \u201coccurs due to multiple motives &#8230; sexual gratification, revenge, recreation, power and attempts to achieve mas\u00ad\u00ad\u00adculinity\u201d.<br \/>\nProtective measu\u00adres play a part in minimising rape in any society, especially those with a problematic socialisation of males. These include recommendations to dress modestly, educate children in safe and unsafe touch and advisories to not venture out alone. \u2018Purdah\u2019 for men is refraining from viewing indecent media and lowering their gaze.<br \/>\nMoving towards systems protective against sex crimes involves realising that acknowledging rape myths exist does not mean believing them. Recommending protective measures never negates the importance of other preventative strategies. One rape causation theory is not an attempt to explain all forms of sexual violence.<br \/>\nNothing that our prime minister said was factually wrong, just incomplete. Understanding multiple factors behind assault is imperative if we are to devise effective strategies: establishing awareness programmes for reformed police, a rescue and response action, more child courts and prohibitive penal punishments. Hot button discussions must be covered in layers of scientific fact and theory. Otherwise like exposed bodies in ignorant societies, speakers can expect to be mauled publicly. And they\u2019d be asking for it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Last year a short clip by comedy trio Muriel She\u2019s Asking For It became the most-watched BBC3 video on Facebook and Twitter, racking up a combined 45 million views in just 10 days. 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