Esha Iqbal & Laiba Amjad
Pakistani Weddings are waste of money, resources and time that have been following since ages, I feel embarrassed when I saw these wastages
“Money is not everything .Do you get married because of money? Do you have kids because of money?”
Pakistani weddings includes: performances, decorations, gatherings, food, traditional ceremonies and etc. A lot of work of hours and huge amount of money is spend to make an attractive wedding
While making the wedding perfect and attractive, we forget about the bond of Holy matrimony. Nobody thinks about the meri gold and roses faded away and the price of the bride wedding dress which is look forever in a suitcase. These grand weddings has now become a status symbol in our society.
It all started with a dress . Wedding are structured around the dresses specially the wedding dress (Shadi k Jora) . The whole wedding revoved around the dress not the couple.The dress is not just important for the bride but it is important for the in-laws. And it is irrational to spend money on the dress for few hours
“Expensive dresses are a waste of money “
I am against the expensive dresses , my head is so spinning when i come to know about my dress who’s worth was alot of money. As I was not willing to brought this dress , which cost same amount as we put four dresses together but nobody seemed to understand me. So that I protested against it and I didn’t give up , then they allowed me whatever i want to wear .
“It’s not a who_wore_what_when event !”
TYPES OF WEDDING DRESSES;
We will divide the wedding dresses on the bases of their prices in two types which can be given as follow
Expensive dresses
Reasonable dresses
Expensive dresses
People buy expensive dresses to show-off their class and status, these dresses are commonly produced by celebrity designer and people buy these dresses and give excuses like they only wear branded dresses or show their brand consciousness.
The reason why branded dresses are expensive because of the reason designer use gold threads or handmade clothing stuff for the sake of their reputation.
Reasonable dresses:
Apart from expensive dresses there are also some dresses found which are reasonable and easy to buy and prettier then expensive ones. Some brides brought very reasonable dresses and look so adorable. The beauty doesn’t all about the dresses or the expensive, it’s about the simplicity and the budged maintained by the family.
MORE FUNCTIONS & MORE CHECK_IN?
A typical wedding has not less than four functions. Its starts from dolki, Mayoo, Mehndi , Barat and Walima . Instead of wasting money on numerous functions why not splurge on vacationing with your better-half. A decent wedding and a reception along with any of other mentioned function are more than enough “It is such a happiness when good people get together –and they always too”
It’s a marriage –a partnership for life, not a temporary business deal
Every family wants to wed their children and ties them with a good family. The sad truth majority wedding focus on the wealth of family. It’s a humble please , don’t let your daughter’s marriage became a deal by showering by the groom side and they think that their daughters is in a save hand .
“Dear ladies! Please choose your partner well, sincerely. Be it a love marriage or arrange marriage, don’t let his money be qualifying criteria to tie the nod.”
Money and financial stability are important factors .Look for a compassionate partner, respectful person. Remember that only hard days, you don’t want to be crying alone, even if it is in Ferrari.
Lavish Food in wedding
My second big objection is on the “Lavish spending on the food “. The point is that we are wasting a lot of money on food in our weddings, they just think about the society what they think, not the money. I don’t believe that a lot of people want to takes steps to eliminate the customs but they do not stands up to the cricisam of the society .we but take the responsibility that we are privilege one’s .we need to propage this idea as much as possible and do not make a recipe for happy marriages
The fairy tale marriages just rises fantasies, it never become a perfect marriage.
‘A goal should be restored the true meaning of marriages and celebrations, all the pretty moments need to understand that simplicity is the beauty.’
Writer of the article are students of BS – Environmental Sciences, International Islamic University, Islamabad.
